by Patte Smith on Tuesday, May 10, 2011 at 10:34am
Women, be sure to be a sweet comfort & encouragement to your husband, especially when God allows him to suffer affliction. You are given to your beloved as a helpmeet, to provide him succour in & through difficult times. Show him how much you love & respect him. Don't try to fix things that are your husband's responsibility.
Wait upon the Lord, knowing He is at work through your husband & the circumstances. Point your dear man to Jesus & pray. Guard your own heart against bitterness & fretting. Run to Christ with your fears & disappointments. Recognize that it is not up to you to make everything alright. The Lord will use your husband to accomplish His purposes through the challenges he is facing.
Don't be like Job's wife, who abandoned the Lord & her husband when pressure & difficulty mounted. William Plumer describes the failure of God's servant's wife to trust that the Lord was at work during their grievous trial:
"During his prosperity Job’s wife may have given some evidence of piety. If so, how must such an avowal have pierced his soul; and if not, how afflicting it must have been to behold her, whom he loved so tenderly, venting her wickedness against God? She not only manifested hatred to him whom Job adored; but she became cold and cruel to her husband....Her marriage vows and all the kindness she had received were forgotten. Her heart was unfeeling."
—William Plumer “Job’s Trials and Mercies”
It is hard for women to find their 'place' when things heat up. We often try to get our husbands to do what we *think* they should do. We may *mean* well (& our thoughts, ideas & suggestions may be wisdom) but we have to guard against trying to take over to solve the situation rather than allowing God to use our husband to work through the matter at hand. We must ask Jesus to help us know what our 'jurisdiction' is & where we are to leave the responsibility squarely where God has put it, on our husband's shoulders.
Women, let us also not only guard against vanity & worldliness, but put it to death. When a godly, spiritual man has a vain & worldly wife she will be the bane of her husband's existence. You don't want to be a bane to him, do you? No! Certainly not! You want to be a blessing to your husband!
Women, don't be jealous of the place Jesus has in your husband's heart. Rejoice! Give your husband room & bless him as he serves his King & promotes Christ's glory & advances His kingdom.
And, dear sisters, if your husband is not spiritual & thinks little or nothing of Jesus, weep bitterly. I shall weep with you. And remember, you were once unspiritual & foolish & God has been merciful to you. He raised you up to live for His glory & He has the power to do the same in the soul of your husband. But if your husband never comes to love Jesus, you have no excuse for your own lack of piety. Look to Thy Maker, Thy eternal Husband & in Him find the love & solace & living water your soul desires. Jesus is enough.
♥ Can two walk together, except they be agreed? ♥ Amos 3:3
"So neither will God be with thee, unless thou art agreed and of one mind with God. Think not to have God with thee, unless thou art with God"
Be on guard, sisters, against courting & covenanting with a man who is not strong in his faith, for truly, if you do, you are courting disaster. Wait for a man who is your spiritual older brother, who will wash you in the Word & lead you as a servant under Messiah, the King.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? ~ 2 Corinthians 6:14
WARNING! This is God's COMMAND to you. By no means join yourself, in courtship or marriage, to a man in whom you find reason to question his salvation. Regenerate and unregenerate persons cannot walk together, there being no harmony, agreement or fellowship between them.